It’s no secret that you all have been googling this question since you discovered the joys of masturbating. It’s one that I used to have too.
So why can’t you last more than 5 mins when you’re jerking off?
I think the main answer is that the mental space you inhabit while masturbating to porn is almost the opposite of that you inhabit when you’re performing in porn, so your sexual response is naturally different.
When you’re masturbating to porn you’re probably alone, in control of your own space, probably relaxed, have found videos and ways of looking at them that engage you and turn you on. You masturbate in the way you know you like without having to think about it; it’s basically an ideal situation for stimulation, and like you, I will tend to reach orgasm pretty quickly in that situation.
Alright. But then how do pornstars manage to last as long as they do?
When you are performing in mainstream porn it’s a completely different mode of sexual engagement. The film, your pay-check and to a degree the progress of your career relies on your body behaving the way everyone expects it to: that is to say that you get and maintain a hard-on and get to orgasm when it’s “called for”. That’s a whole bunch of pressure to start with, but there are a few more things that make a difference too.
You are performing, sometimes unnaturally, rather than pursuing anything along the lines of your peak erotic experience as you would when masturbating. You probably haven’t met your co-performer before and you can’t negotiate as effectively while you’re having sex, so there is always some second-guessing going on as to what they would respond well to. You are trying to maintain focus and stay totally engaged at the moment while not thinking about staying focussed and while keeping in mind what the director needs.
So now, the main question would be “how to last longer while still enjoying the pleasures of sex?”
To answer that question, I can surely give you some noteworthy points.
Work your Kegels!
Kegels are pelvic floor muscles. Like any other muscle group, you need to train your pelvic muscles or else they will end up shrinking and losing strength.
Why are they important you ask?
Well these are the exact muscles which help you shoot your load and also to restrict them during orgasm. Therefore when you train this group of muscles, you’re actually training your body to control your ejaculation.
To do a Kegel exercise, follow these steps:
- Start by holding your pelvic floor muscles in for 5 seconds. To pull in your pelvic floor, think of pulling in and lifting up your genitals. Don’t hold your breath while you do this. Counting out loud can stop you from holding your breath.
- After holding for 5 seconds, slowly and completely relax your muscles for 5 seconds.
- Repeat this process 10 times, at least 3 times every day.
One of the most crucial tips. Edging in when you come back from the point of no-return. What you basically do is to take yourself to the very edge, almost to the brink of an orgasm and then slow yourself down returning to a lower excited state. Once you do this repeatedly, you train yourself to build momentum and prevent quick ejaculation.
Change your positions whenever you think you’re getting too excited
Whenever you feel the blood gushing down your spine and feel like erupting, change your position. This will not only give you a few seconds of rest in between but also help you calm your senses momentarily.
So these were the tips on what to do to last long like pornstars. But you should also know about what not to do. Or rather, avoid the common myths which is propagated in media and several self proclaimed sex gurus!
Myth 1: Think of some boring crap
Definitely the most common “advice” which people will give you is to think of something boring or ugly. For instance, they say it’s helpful if you suddenly think of solving some math equations or maybe some ugly wretched woman if you’re close to cumming.
But i find this total BS. For one, it takes away the whole joy of sex by introducing distractions. And two, how probable is it to imagine sh*t like this when you’re banging the woman of your dreams. *wink wink*
Myth 2: Tugging your balls or squeezing the head
I mean, even if you ignore the discomfort of this whole activity, how hot does it look while doing this in between sex lol.
You’ll surely lose your girl if you even think of pulling out and tugging your balls when she’s close to climax! Good luck on that.
With all these golden tips and myth busters, I’m sure you will have enough tricks up your sleeve to last you as long as you want. So go ahead, rock the bed, and share this article to thank us for the gig haha!