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How to not Cum Fast? 5 Tips to help prevent ejaculating too quickly

Cumming too fast can be a real problem for a man, no matter their age, or even if they have a partner or not. It can be frustrating and even embarrassing, and worse, still, it can become a vicious cycle.

You worry about cumming too soon and it ends up happening, lowering your confidence and increasing your anxiety, leading it to happen all over again the following time. 

Whether you want to last longer to impress your partner and give them the necessary time to actually reach the big O themselves, or just want to do it to make yourself feel better, we’ve got your back.

In this article, we’ll discuss how to not cum quickly, so read on!

Am I weird for cumming too fast?

No! This is a problem most men face at one point or another of their lives. It might have to do with sexual inexperience, eagerness, insecurity and overpowering arousal. It can also be a symptom of a chemical imbalance, so you might want to check with a doctor about your testosterone levels if the problem continues even after trying our different methods to delay your orgasms.

Premature ejactulation is all too common, and we’ll explore the different reasons behind it in depth, so you can try and analyze what might be going on with your body.

Your mind might be your worst enemy:

No, you’re not going crazy or anything of the sort, but you might be dealing with some issues. These include anxiety, low self-esteem and a lack of confidence. If you have poor body image issues, this might also prompt your sex drive to reach a peak too fast, leading to premature ejaculation.

Stress can also be a factor, so if you’re going through a hard patch at work or at home, you might want to focus on fixing it before attempting to improve your sex issues. It will surprise you how much longer you can last when you’re relaxed and content.

Learning to love yourself and feeling confident in what you look like and how you perform in bed are also key to avoid reaching that big O too soon. As we explained before, this can turn into a vicious cycle, in which you feel bad about yourself for cumming too soon and then cum too soon because you feel bad about yourself. It’s an endless loop only you can put a stop to, by learning to boost your confidence and feelings of self-worth.

Sexual inexperience:

Yes, when you have sex for the first time, it’s likely you’ll cum all too fast. It makes sense, doesn’t it? You’re overpowered by the intense arousal and pleasure you’re experiencing, and it’s all too much for you before long. You cum and realize you didn’t last nearly as long as you hoped.

Don’t worry! This is solved by getting more experience, both masturbating and enjoying the company of your partner, or even a one-night-stand. After all, practice makes perfect! So don’t get frustrated, and keep going.

Overthinking it:

Don’t cum too quickly, you tell yourself over and over again as you have sex. Lo and behold, the opposite happens. If you obsess about not cumming too soon, there’s a good chance that’s exactly what will end up happening

Try and relax, enjoy the moment and let go of your worries. If you live at the moment and try to pleasure your partner instead of obsessing over your orgasm, you’ll find it much easier to last longer.  

You might be masturbating the wrong way:

Is that even possible? Sadly, yes. You might not have enough time to enjoy a full masturbation session, so try and cum as quickly as possible when touching yourself.

Now, that’s a problem, because your body will end up associating sexual arousal with the need to cum as fast as possible.

Our recommendation? Before masturbating, make sure you have the time and privacy to enjoy it. Make an occasion out of it, and enjoy every bit of it.

Hormone imbalance:

This might be an issue. Maybe you’re having problems with your testosterone, or a medication you’re taking messes up with your libido. If you worry this might be the case, visit your doctor and voice your concerns. Tests can be run and medication can be changed, so there’s always a solution to this health problem as well. 

How not to cum fast

Of course there are techniques you can use to delay your orgasms! Let’s review the most popular ones, and you can pick up which works best for you!

Edging:

Edging is exactly what it sounds like, which means using this method, you’ll stop short of cumming whenever you masturbate. This is closely related to tantric sex, so don’t be surprised if the results are highly pleasing to your partner.

When edging, you’ll try and avoid cumming for as long as possible, stopping and going back to masturbating several times before giving in to your most primal desires.

In time, this will help you last longer, as you’re effectively training yourself not to reach satisfaction the instant you feel the need for it. 

Kegel exercises:

They are incredibly easy to do, and they will not only help you delay your orgasms, but also increase your libido and control over your own erection.

You need to find the pelvic floor muscles first, and there’s an easy way to do so. Go to the bathroom and pee, then try and stop it midstream. Those muscles you used are the ones you’re looking for!

Once you’ve located the right muscles, you just have to dedicate a few minutes a day to exercise them. Tighten them for five seconds, relax for the same amount of time and repeat, at least ten times, three times a day. You’ll see the effects in a few weeks, and your partner will thank you for it!

Abstinence:

It might be hard at first, but denying yourself an orgasm for a while can help! Don’t masturbate or have sex for an established period of time, and try the results after this period. You can try out different options, from a few days to a few weeks, and adapt depending on what works best for you.

This might seem counterintuitive: Won’t you be desperate for an orgasm if you don’t cum for a long time? Well, it might be so if you stress out about it. But if you think of it as an exercise in patience and self-control, it can be highly beneficial. You’ll learn to disconnect arousal from instant satisfaction, and potentially last longer when you’re having sex.

Work on your confidence:

Yes, if you think you’re not worthy of the women you sleep with or if you don’t particularly like yourself, there’s a good chance you won’t be able to avoid having an orgasm too soon.

You need to remember loving yourself comes first, and only then can you properly relate to those around you in a healthy way. This not only applies to relationships but also to your sex life.

If you don’t like the way you look, you might try exercising or eating healthier meals, as well as drinking lots of water. Try to avoid greasy food and sugary drinks, and in no time you’ll be enjoying your reflection in the mirror instead of dreading it. 

So, do you think these methods will help you delay your orgasms? Did we miss any good alternatives you think might help your fellow readers? Please tell us about it in the comment section!