Cock worship is a turn-on for plenty of men and women out there, but what exactly is it and what does it entail?
In this article, we’ll discuss the subject of penis worship and how you can engage in it, enriching your sexual life and increasing both you and your partner’s pleasure.
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What is cock worship?
Though usually dick worshiping includes some sort of BDSM affinity, it can also be a deeply romantic, loving sexual act.
It relates to granting a phallus stimulation, attention and most importantly, adoration, as if one was venerating the cock, and sometimes also balls.
This does not necessarily require a dick: though it might sound like a contradiction, several substitutes can be used, such as dildos, strap-ons or even cock-shaped vegetables. This last option might work as a sort of foreplay when it’s not possible to give an actual blowjob, or when trying to heightened anticipation to the actual act.
So this means that both heterosexual and homosexual couples can engage in cock worship. All it requires is for the person touching, petting, squeezing, licking and sucking the penis in question doing it in a way that makes their partner feel like their dick is being exalted.
If cock worship includes BDSM activities, it usually centers around power dynamics, lowering the status of the submissive and exalting that of the dominant. It empowers the domme or dom, and may include humiliation and degradation, through the use of nameplay -insults and demeaning phrases-, dick slaps or deepthroating.
How to properly worship a cock?
It depends on the sort of relationship you and your lover or significant other have. It can be a loving, soft and sensual act. It might include edging and tantric sex, which involves extending the period between stimulation and cumming for as long as possible, making the ejaculation more intense and powerful when it finally arrives.
On the other hand, it may also be a way of degrading the person doing the worshiping, as they stroke, lick, suck or caress the phallus. Sex toys can also be used to enhance the experience, such as dick rings or vibrators. If it’s paired up with anal play, different types of plugs and beads are available in any sex shop.
The person doing the worship should admire the cock in full, taking time to stimulate every inch. Whispering against the dick, letting their partner know everything that they love about it is a common practice, as not only will the words help to enhance the pleasure, but breathing and lip movements against the sensitive area further stimulate the recipient.
In a BDSM relationship, the dominant may force their submissive to provide them with pleasure and dote on their erection. Always remember force is only a matter of speech: the struggle is not real, and both parties consent to all activities performed. If this is not the case, it’s not BDSM, but rather abuse.
In more extreme cases, the dominant might thrust into the sub’s mouth, face-fucking them and roughly grabbing at their hair or head to keep them in place. Partners who enjoy degradation or pain would greatly enjoy a more violent approach to cock worshiping.
What positions are best for cock worship?
As usual, it depends on what you are into, sexually speaking. If you prefer a more sensual and romantic approach, then having the person performing the worship kneeling or resting between their partner’s open legs while they either sit up or lay down on a flat surface would work best.
When it comes to a dominant and submissive dynamic, those alternatives are also great, but so is having the dom or domme stand up while their sub meekly kneels before them. This allows for good eye contact -if it’s allowed!- and gives the dominant room to grab at his partner’s breasts, head or shoulders, as well as guide their hands or heads into the position they want the submissive to assume.
Why is it important for the person doing the worshiping to be on their knees? It’s not a must, but it does add intensity to both the vulnerability of the submissive and their devotion toward their partner’s dick. This is particularly common in master-slave relationships, as it puts in full display their dynamics.
There are several elements that can be added to enhance the experience, such as blindfolds or padded cuffs. With a submissive being unable to see, they’d have to rely on their other senses, such as taste, touch and smell. If their hands are restrained, they’ll be expected to get everything done using nothing but their mouths and tongues, which can be a kink in and of itself, especially if they are meant to unzip their dominant’s pants and fish the cock out.
In rare cases, cock worshiping can be performed by a dominant instead of a submissive, and is used as a sort of humiliation towards the person receiving the attention. There are few kink niches that would make this situation work, but as usual, it’s all up to your partner and you! If you both enjoy it, then go for it! If you’d like to research some examples, you should search MDLB or MDLG (Mother domme, little girl or boy). This does not involve minors in any shape or way, and it’s a type of power and control play. In this sort of interaction, a loving domme might lavish their submissive with attention, worshiping their dick -or substitute phallus-, in a tender and controlling way, flooding their ‘little’ with pleasure they can’t control.
It’s fully possible for a cock worship session to include multiple partners, though it’s more usual to have several submissives enjoying a single dick than the other way around. In orgies or other similar sexual situations involving a group, several different dick worshippings might occur at the same time, including voyeristic and exhibitionism elements to the kink.
RACK is a key concept when dealing with BDSM cock worship
Sessions between a dominant and their submissive can usually get extreme, so it’s always vital to remember the acronym RACK.
What does it stand for? Risk-aware consensual kink.
And why is it so important? When engaging in cock worship, a couple might enjoy including deepthroating or other sorts of activities which could potentially block the submissive’s airways.
So not only must all parties involved be fully aware of the risks, but also ensure beforehand the act is consensual, and the dominant will ensure their submissive’s safety, stopping if they hear the safeword or if they notice something is wrong. No matter how intense the pleasure being experienced might be, when real bodily harm is involved, all sexual activities must come to a halt until the emergency has passed.
Keep the lines of communication open and make sure everyone is actually enjoying themselves.
So why should you engage in cock worshiping if you’re not into BDSM?
Though it does sound like most of the people involved in this activity are into some level of power play, that doesn’t need to be the case. There are several benefits to engaging in this sexual kink with your partner:
- It helps boost the man’s confidence, especially if they suffer from low self-esteem or aren’t proud of their dick
- It can help deal with premature ejaculation and problems with maintaining an erection, especially if accompanied by therapy
- It can be the perfect gift for a significant other during a special day
- It can spice things up, especially if you’ve both fallen into something of a rut. Maybe the worshiper can receive a similar treatment soon after?
A few extra tips
- Find the right position for you and your partner. Either if you’re both into romance or power play, you should try different alternatives before settling on the one that feels right for your style
- Talk to your partner: Is eye-contact arousing? Should the worshiper only use their mouth, or be able to dote on the dick in any way they see fit? Discussing these and several other details beforehand can help the both of you to enjoy the experience even further
- Incorporating massages as well as tender -or naughty!- words are great ideas to ensure the session is as tantalizing as possible. Don’t be afraid to get creative, or to make suggestions.
- Have fun! You don’t have to take it too seriously! If you and your partner have a cute pet name for the dick in question, just go for it. Sex doesn’t need to be solemn and intense for it to work. It all depends on your style, don’t be afraid to keep an open mind!
