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Brat BDSM: What it Means to be a Brat in BDSM

With the proliferation of movies and books such as ‘50 shades of gray’, it’s no wonder that the general public erroneously believes BDSM is a one-note game.

It’s anything but: there are plenty of shades to it, and yes, we did notice the wordplay.

Just as there are many different practices, there are several types of submissives. There are those who enjoy a gentler touch, others who like their dominants to Brat bdsmhave a cruel, sadistic streak. Preferences can range from humiliation and pain to a nurturing and sweet approach.

In this article, we’ll discuss a specific subtype of BDSM play: The brat.

So what is a brat BDSM?

You might be asking yourself: isn’t a submissive supposed to be… submissive? The answer is, not exactly.

As we stated before, different subs prefer different kinds of doms, and the opposite is true as well. A strict, traditional dominant might be annoyed by their submissive being too high-strung and demanding. After all, they want someone to obey, not fight back.

But that’s hardly always the case. Some dominants enjoy a challenge. Others fancy correcting bad behaviors and are enticed by the brat’s bad attitude.

This sort of BDSM is very common when it comes to DDLG kinks. DDLG stands for Daddy Dom, Little Girl. This is not to say anyone but adults are involved in any shape or form. BDSM is, by definition, about consent, so everyone involved in healthy practices are both in agreement and of age.

When it comes to DDLG, the dominant enjoys assuming the role of a ‘caretaker’ more than a master or owner. In these cases, the submissive might act younger than they really are, pouting, throwing tantrums, asking to be comforted or tucked in. Some of these LGs are brats, determined to get their DD’s attention by any means possible, and trying to break the rules intentionally.

They usually enjoy being punished and ache for a patient yet firm touch and take delight in testing how far they can push before their dominant finally draws the line.

Brat sex

The brat will speak back, she will rebel and protest and try to get her way no matter the situation. So you better believe she’ll also do it while having sex.

This doesn’t mean she isn’t enjoying what’s going on or doesn’t ache to submit. That’s what safe words are for, after all: if a submissive truly wants a session to come to an end, the safe word makes her discomfort immediately known.

The pleasure arises from trying to reject being controlled while being either forced or punished into finally submitting. Like a wild horse, she wants to be tamed, and only the right sort of master can achieve this goal.

The submissive might even egg on the dominant while being punished or engaging in sexual activities, in order to get more of what she wants.

Common teases include phrases like: “Is that all you’ve got?”, ‘I can barely feel that!’ and ‘“I thought this was supposed to hurt’. These are the brat’s attempt to poke their doms into increasing the intensity of whatever they are doing and usually works as an easy-to-notice sign that they want to experience some sort of pain or degradation.

There are brats that can be put in their place faster, while others struggle all through their sessions. Usually, meeker brats act out only to search for their dominant’s approval soon after while bolder ones try to see if they can break or bend the rules at every turn.

Being a brat can be as simple as smirking when a dominant is giving a command or as complex as fighting back when ordered to do something.

A good way to explore this kink would be to command the submissive to provide their dominant with oral sex. The brat would naturally reject this idea, acting up, only to be coaxed into it, however reluctantly. If anything goes wrong during this game, the safe word is used to bring it to a halt.

Dominants should also enjoy the benefits having sex with a brat brings: If they challenge their submissive, it will probably appeal to their competitive side, and she will want to prove them wrong. For instance, a fun little game could be to tell her: ‘I bet you can’t ride me faster than that’, or ‘You can’t take all of me inside your mouth’.

Brats tend to enjoy a challenge and they’ll work hard to show the dominant just how wrong they were, even if they are aware they’re just being goaded into submitting.

How to punish a brat

There are plenty of ways to put a brat back in their place:

  • Spanking, not surprisingly, is an incredibly popular method, as it ties in nicely with the whole DDLG dynamics
  • Taking away privileges, especially something the brat frequently throws tantrums about. A sex toy is a great idea, but it depends on their preferences. Also, being denied orgasms and certain sex acts can be highly arousing to a brat
  • Gags: When it’s time to be quiet, or the brat’s pushed the dominant’s buttons one too many times, gags can be the best way to make sure they stop running their mouth
  • Tying them down and giving them time to think about their actions: It’s a fun punishment that’ll make the brat apologize in no time. And then she can be properly rewarded, which is fun all around.
  • Forced orgasms: As usual, the concept of forcing your partner into anything is just a simulation. The submissive agrees to these games to take place, and consent can be taken away previous to or during the session. That being said, pushing a submissive to have a long, seemingly never-ending string of orgasms is the perfect example of punishing someone by giving them too much of a good thing.
  • Chores: If your brat is heavily into DDLG games, you can have her fulfill certain chores as punishment for their attitude. Alternatively, you can come up with punishments reserved for students, such as writing down what they should or shouldn’t do several times, or standing in a corner until you allow them to come back to your side.

How to reward a brat

So you’ve managed to tame your brat… at least for the time being. Kudos! Now it’s time to give her a reward to encourage their obedience.

  • Words are a powerful reward: Being called a good girl can be an incredible aphrodisiac to submissives. Other alternatives are sweet girl, princess, kitten, baby girl and the likes. Your brat might even enjoy saltier praises such as good slut, or little whore. Try what works best for you and your sub.
  • Letting them enjoy an orgasm: Pleasure is one of the best rewards you can give a brat, once they’ve done enough to earn it. That is, unless they are into denial. Then keep them wanting for more.
  • Giving them back something you took away from them: If your brat was punished and you took away one of their privileges, make sure to give it back, and make a big deal about it.
  • ‘Allow’ them to give you a blowjob: It’s a great idea to equate providing their dominant with pleasure with a reward. This way, both of you will enjoy the effects of her finally submitting to your will.

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